Don’t Overthink It!

As a Taurus, I am inclined to action. I like making a plan, getting things done, and crossing tasks off my list—the way I see it, this frees me up to do whatever I want, once my goals are accomplished. But, however straightforward things may appear to me, I recognize that it isn’t nearly this clear cut for others. To you, I have this to say: don’t overthink it.

 

Remember, we all aim to be conscientious and comprehensive in our assessments and choices, but the fact of the matter is, everything worth doing involves risk: relationships, occupations, passions, what have you—exploring new territory mandates that we take steps that feel inconvenient, sacrifice other activitiess that we enjoy, and generally extend ourselves beyond our comfort zone. Perhaps because those of us who are Tauruses have thick skulls, we are better suited than most to stampeding blindly into the future, but I’ve gotta admit that there are one or two of you out there in the Zodiac universe who have formidable exoskeletons as well—you can take a licking and keep on ticking.

 

Ok, so why am I blathering on this way? Because way, way, waaaaay too many of us overthink the changes we wish to make using “being responsible” as an excuse not to take action. To you I say, responsible assessment has its limits and when taken too far, inevitably results in paralysis and lost opportunities. You won’t have the same chances forever, so if you snooze…you lose. This may sound harsh, but life moves on and the doors that are open today may not be open tomorrow. You know this, even if you are loathe to admit it.

 

I’ll tell you a story about myself. For much of my life, I was plagued with unhappiness about an element of my appearance; my insecurity was so great that it dictated much of how I interacted with the world—and forced me to develop qualities and characteristics that I hoped would distract those around me from judging me for my “so obvious failings.” Despite the fact that my friends constantly reassured me that it wasn’t the problem I considered it to be, I also know that how I felt about it drove everything in terms of my ability to relate to others and embrace the opportunities that came my way. But, making the change I believed I needed involved significant risk on my part—physical, emotional, and mental. I had to get to a point where dealing with whatever possible, unknown aftermath of my choice was more attractive than living with the misery of my current situation. I thought about it and thought about it and thought about it. I tried a variety of strategies that never quite worked. What pushed me over the edge was when I turned forty. For me, turning forty was a significant marker into full-on adulthood. I gave myself a little talking to and basically said, “If not now, when? What makes you think this will be easier ten years from now?I knew the answer. I knew that my ability to do certain things and enjoy certain experiences would not be enhanced if I waited—in fact, my chance to do these things would likely diminish if not outright disappear. I had to take that risk. And, so I did.

 

Taking that risk has made a world of positive difference for me, despite the fact that the results weren’t, exactly, what I had expected.

 

It matters not what my particular decision was about; what matters is what this adjustment is for you. Yes, there are risks involved. And, yes, there are possible prices to pay. But, how much better off are you going to be if you delay? Like Harry Potter or Alice in Wonderland, doors can disappear, passages vanish, and there you’ll remain—paralyzed by your responsible thoughts. Is that what you want?

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3 Responses to “Don’t Overthink It!”

  1. Jeyna Grace Says:

    True, sometimes we just need to take calculated risks.

  2. dignitarysretreat Says:

    It’s so true, Jeyna. I have wrestled with that fear of risks repeatedly, but I’ve come to conclude that a lot of the time our fear stems from the (incorrect) belief that we won’t be able to handle the unexpected aftermath of the risk. But, we can! Thanks for for your comment.

  3. helenga Says:

    You are so right about just jumping in and doing it. This is something I’m going to try to do more of this year as I absolutely suffer from analysis paralysis. Thanks for the reminder. 🙂

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